That Time God Instantly Changed My Life

Ok, so if you commented on my Facebook post, you have been waiting for this post.  For those who didn’t, I wanted to share an experience I had this time last year. In the past year, I have learned sooo much  due to some of the experiences I have had. So hear is the story:

In 2015, I had SO much going on in my life. I didn’t like my job, things going on with other people, not knowing my next steps. This was a lot for me because I am typically about 10 steps ahead of the game. I just felt, held back to a certain extent. I decided to start journaling as an outlet, and because I thought it would be a great self care practice for me in addition to my Self Care Saturday (something I do once a month at least). I began journaling, just writing my feelings, thoughts, and prayers.

One evening, about a week before I was set to board a plane to the Dominican Republic, I found myself journaling and praying about Change. I told God that I needed my life to go in a different direction once I got back to America. I needed to start looking for a new job, and a fresh outlook on other aspects of my life. I prayed about this for at least an hour, really about specifics, and time frames, and how I am going to go about starting this change that I desire. (Because I am extremely thorough like that) Afterwards I felt determined, and ready to leave that next week, so that I could come back refreshed. That was a Wednesday.

The NEXT DAY, I had a meeting where we staffed the clients we serviced with our supervisor. When it was my turn to staff my clients, I apparently said something wrong, which made my supervisor go down a long list of things I am doing wrong, questioning if I wanted to be in the field, and having me answer certain questions…in front of my colleagues…during this meeting. Now people who know me know that if there is an issue or if I need to be told something I’d rather talk in private. But this particular day, I wasn’t embarrassed, mad, upset… I was calm. The entire time  they were talking I was calm. I received the feedback well, and remained silent most of time they  said what they had to say. This was not because I didn’t want to say anything.. because OH BABY.. but I was standing there at the podium with this exact thought: “Ok Lord, I didn’t think we were gonna start this change TODAY.  This is what we are doing? Ok then, thank you Lord. Because I know what I asked for.” I had been wondering if this particular place was for me, but got confirmation that maybe they wanted me to leave as much as I wanted to be done. So I stood there, looking like I was going to cry, not because my feelings were hurt, but because God had instantly confirmed what I had been feeling.

Sidenote: You would be amazed at how much people try to BS you, or assume you don’t understand or are not reading in between the lines when you sit back and listen and observe….anywho lol

After that meeting I was called into a meeting and put on probation. This probation was set to be evaluated at the beginning of December. So I began to mentally prepare myself to find a new job for the beginning of the New Year. (For contextual purposes, this all happened in about 3 days, all before I went on vacation.)

FAST FORWARD The day I came back from vacation, which was about a week after I had my meeting, I checked my emails, and began to prepare to go back to work for the remainder of the week. I was DREADING going back to do the same dance all over again. One of my supervisors emailed me about a meeting that I needed to attend the next day. I didn’t know what is was for, truly didn’t care.  As I am unpacking someone calls me from an agency and says they FOUND my resume, and wanted to talk to me about an opportunity. Now, I was skeptical because I’ve never had someone call me about a job I didn’t apply to, but I decided to hear her out. She told me about a job downtown, and interviewed me. She was excited after hearing about my experience and wanted to schedule a Skype interview for THE SAME DAY..THE SAME DAY!!!! So I continued to prepare for my work week, thinking “Ok, God is just showing me that there are other things out there, nothing is gonna become of this, I don’t even know how she got my resume.” Skype interview goes well, and she tells me that she will pass my resume along to the in-person interviewer, and if he is interested, he will contact me for site visit and interview.

The next day, I go to my job, prepared to attend the meeting and get back into the swing of things with clients. I attend the meeting and learned that they decided to fire me. They told me “the reason” and tried to make it sound as smooth as possible. I let them know what I understood and calmly agreed with everything. On the inside I was doing cartwheels and having a party! I was so happy I didn’t have to deal with them anymore, and I have a hunch the feeling was mutual. So after the meeting, I went to my office and packed all of my stuff, and said goodbye to the co-worker that didn’t already know I had been let go. ( I know right) I was so relieved and felt so free. I couldn’t even began to say how happy grateful I was. I got in my my car, and sat there for a moment, got on social media, and decided to check my emails. TURNS OUT, while I was in the meeting getting fired the job I interviewed for not even 12 hours prior, emailed me saying they heard great things about me, and wanted to schedule an in-person site visit and interview. At this point I’m like…“God, I don’t know what you are doing, but I’m here for it”. I sent my friend a text that read “So.. as I was getting fired, another job was emailing me.. #straightlikethat” and some other annoying hastags. lol  She replied back “Exactly”.  I told my family, they weren’t surprised, and were kind of relieved as well.

FAST FORWARD 4 days later, I had my interview at the place that was interested in me. It was downtown (so y’all know I was like SWOON) in the NBC Tower. I got to the interview, he asked me some questions, I took a aptitude test, and after a few minutes, he said the clinical director wanted to meet me. We had a good conversation, she gave me a tour, and walked me out. She said I would know something in a couple weeks. I went home, excited about this new journey I was going on. Whether I got the job or not, I was excited to be moving forward.

About 2 hours after I left the interview, I got settled at home, playing with the new flatirons I got in the mail. I got a call from the guy who did my interview stating that they loved me and  I GOT THE JOB! I was so happy! I didn’t apply for this job, still to this day, don’t know how they found me. In less than 5 days, I was fired from one job, and accepted another position paying WAY more, with great benefits. It was nothing but God! This position aided in helping me slow my pace down and clear my head. I knew this place wasn’t my dream job, but it allowed me some wiggle room to line up some of the other aspects of my life. I was grateful. I was able to just spend time with me and get me in order for a while, before I took over the task of managing the lives and emotions of others.

Well there you all have it! This is not the only time, God answered a prayer of mine, but I was just taken aback at the quick and dynamic impact of it all. To this day I am so grateful it went this way and wouldn’t change a thing. I embraced the rapid changes, and just trusted Him!

Rosé Bucket List


So it’s summer time. And those who know me, know I love everything about summer… And wine! I have recently got on the “Yes Way Rosé” bandwagon! Now, I could go into the science of rosé, and why you should try it… But that’s why you have Google! Just know, it’s good,  it’s reletively inexpensive and you can drink most rosés with almost anything!

Below are a few rosé wines I’ve commited myself to trying before the summer ends! The ones that are bold I’ve already had…. (Don’t judge me, it took me a longtime to write this) If you try any let me know. Also, if you’d like to try some of the wines that are on ClubW… Here is a link that gets us both a free bottle if you sign up!

  1. Cocomero, Club W (Rosato Tuscato)
  2. Miraval
  3. Notorious Pink
  4. Sofia Rosé
  5. Mainque
  6. White Girl Rosé
  7. Minuty
  8. Montaud
  9. Côte de Roses (the bottle is shaped like a rose)
  10. Summer Water, Club W (I have it, but I’m waiting for something fun before I open it)
  11. Sauvtage, Club W ( I have this one too, again waiting for the turn up!)
  12. Mulderbosch (We have to try this…. Because it’s South African!)
  13. Luc Belaire Rosé (because Ross tricked y’all)
  14. Château de Campuget (drinking this one now)
  15. Whispering Angel
  16. Villa Wolf
  17. Belleruche
  18. Zonin Rosé
  19. Innovac!oń (no that’s not a typo)
  20. Mouton Cadet
  21. Château Montaud
  22. MiMi en Provence
  23. Château Sainte Margureite
  24. Bon Vivant Rosé

Whew….. Who is down to try all 24?? #yeswayrose

***Bonus: Drink Rosé on the beach and GET 👏🏾 YOUR👏🏾LIFE👏🏾!

What to Pack: All Inclusive Vacation 

At the end of October 2015, I went on a wonderful vacation to Punta Cana, DR. While this was not my first all inclusive vacation, this was the first one I attended with a friend on board! It was so exciting, as my friend had never been out of the country and I was eager for her to experience things like customs, (lol) THE BEACH, the drinks etc. we had a BLAST! There were days we spent being busy, and days we spend doing NOTHING. Either way, there was a great view, friendly people, and good food and drinks… And drinks.

So to be clear, and all inclusive resort includes room, food, drinks, (alcoholic as well as non alcoholic) , as well as daily and nightly entertainment. Most resorts also include non motorized water sports, dance and work out classes, beach parties etc. If you have never been on an all inclusive vacation.. I highly suggest you get to an island of your choice. It’s life changing. Need a travel agent? I know some awesome ones who can assist you with planning, payment plans and group travel! Check them out here! 

While my  well deserved vacation was great, I did find out the hard way some things that definitely need to be packed when going away! This is not a complete list of what to bring with you, but my list of items that are a MUST when going to one of these resorts! 

  1. Sundresses- I’d pack at least one for everyday you are there, it gets hot, and there is nothing like a fresh shower and a sundress. Sundresses are appropriate for almost every occasion on the resort! 
  2. At least 3 bathing suits- My recommendation is a bikini, one piece, and a cute tankini! You want to bring multiple bathing suits so you can rotate them. And give the others time to dry. 
  3. Swim shoes-Because the seaweed is just too much sometimes. 
  4. Swimsuit cover up-What else are you gonna read that book poolside in?? And you can’t go to the beach grill dripping wet lol. 
  5. Bags with longer straps- so I’m totally a satchel and tote kind of girl… But WHO wants to carry a purse around the entire time? Especially since the only time you will really need cash is when you are buying your mom that souvenir she asked you about! Smaller bags with long straps are great for the beach, cute for dinner and safe for shopping. They hold the essentials such as lipgloss, debit card and a few dollars. 
  6. Sunglasses- This is almost self explanatory. It’s sunny as hell, bring some sunglasses. Preferably 2 purr (STL accent) 
  7. Incect Repellent – If you have been out of the country, you know this…you are gonna encounter so many bugs, bugs you have never seen, bugs you never thought existed.. Don’t be that Gal that has to buy the $3,000 1oz incect repellent at the gift shop. 
  8. Beach Towel-While the resort does provide you with  a towel during your stay, I found it more convient to bring mine. This way, I didn’t have to worry about bringing a towel key with me when I wanted to go to the beach or pool.  I have a super cute Betsy Johnson beach towel that cost me less than $15. And it’s cute as hell. 
  9. Sunscreen/Aloe Lotion- While I still love a  tan, this combo is an absolute MUST. Whenever I go out in the sun, especially the Carribean sun I make sure I apply sunscreen, and have my aloe lotion near by. I am able to get a nice island tan without burning all of this melanin. 😉
  10. A pair of workout clothes and gym shoes- I didn’t bring any on this particular trip.. But the resort did have several workout classes on the beach, and outdoors to take advantage of. Another Carribean vacation I went on however, I did bring workout wear. It was nice to take some time to myself and work out early in the morning. In addition to working out, you may want to enjoy an excursion that involves zip lining, hiking, or anything else you don’t want to do in a dress and flip flops. 
  11. Standard Cold Meds- Im not sure how common this is…. It it SUCKS to get sick while on vacation! You miss out on so much! Right before I went to The DR, I got sick, and didn’t get over it u til the first day I was there… Then my friend got sick! She was out for about 2 of our 5 days on the island! She tried to still have fun, but felt awful! We then learned our lesson to bring a bottle of cold medicine or even allergy pills. The “24 hour nurse” was crazy expensive! 
  12. Light MakeUp-unless you have something planned that will require an official beat, take as little makeup as possible. Your aren’t gonna want to put your “face on” for every occasion. The most make up I wore was when we went out at night. even then, my light coverage foundation just made me wan to wash my face. I will make a seperate post or video detailing Carribean vacation make up. 😏
  13. Books, Kindle or tablet-Simply because nothing is more relaxing than reading on the beach with your favorite drink. Netflix and Chill (in its literal sense) is even better on the beach!  I have an iPad, so I just bought a few books on my free Kindle app. But physical books are ALWAYS better in my opinion.
  14. Water Bottle/Cup-I didn’t do this, but bringing a water bottle or your favorite cup.. Yes cup. The drinks at most bars are in tiny cups. Providing your own cup not only distinguishes your drink from the rest, it also saves you trips to the bar!

***********Bonus Items***********

Hand Sanitizer 

Barefoot Sandals( look them up, they will change your life)😝😝😝😝😝

So many pair of Old Navy flip flops.. They are 2/$5!! 

Happy New Year!! 

Happy New Year!!! 

These past 6 days… I’ve been so optimistic and so positive!!! Im usually not the “New Year,New Me” type, but after last year, I decided that things had to change… Fast. I won’t even harp on everything that went wrong in 2015 (well..not in this post) but I will say that I learned a lot, and I am always grateful for a lesson learned. This year I want to open myself up to so much more! I have a habit of having like 36 projects at once, but I am trying to do my best in prioritizing those goals. I’ve learned that it is totally ok to put some things on the back burner until you get some things accomplished. I have chose two things that I want to focus on heavily; my blog and my event planning company ( more info coming soon 😉). I’ve neglected my blog almost all of 2015 due to various VARIOUS situations and lost most of my content. Because my blog touches on a wide range of subjects, I want to continue to write about things that are relevant in my life, as well as the lives of others.

I’m not even sure why i was writing this post in the first place, lol but I really just wanted to wish everyone a Happy New Year! 
Also, I am having a vision board party on Saturday January 23rd, the cost is $20, which covers food, materials, etc. If you are interested in attending please email me! I hope to see you there!


My Fall Bucket List

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As many of you may know, Fall, in my opinion is the most wonderful time of the year. This year, I decided to make a bucket list with all of the things I want to get accomplished in this beautiful weather.  I want to accomplish all of these things by December 1st…or until it starts snowing!

  1. Go apple/ pumpkin picking-I’ve never been apple picking, but the pumpkin patch is pretty fun!
  2. Jump in a pile of leaves-C’mon, don’t say you’re too old…I know you wanna do it!
  3. Attend a fall festival-Like, as many as possible.
  4. Have a bonfire-Anyone want to volunteer their house??? I’ll bring the s’mores!
  6. Make a dish involving pumpkin and Nutella-Pinterest, here I come!
  7. Buy a pair of riding boots- ……that support wide calfs #NoWideCalfLeftBehind lol
  8. Have several Pumpkin Spice Latte’s -But the way my fitness plan is set up….
  9. Drink Pumpkin Coffee…period.
  10. Make apple sangria-……with the apples I am gonna pick.
  11. DIY Halloween Costume- Can’t wait for you all to see it! I’ve already started.
  12. Hayride!!!
  13. Watch Hocus Pocus and HalloweenTown!- Netflix and Chill or nah?
  14. Corn Maze-They have a really cool Blackhawks one near me! (Go..Blackhawks?)
  15. Crock pot Hot Cocoa- I’ve seen tons of these recipes on Pinterest (my second home) can’t wait to try some of these!

I’ll be sure to update you all on what I did and did not do, but be sure to follow me on Instagram and SnapChat (Just scan the code below) to see my adventures! Comment below and tell me some things that are on your Fall Bucket List!!!


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Don’t Call it A Comeback

So I know some of you are like, where TF did she go? Well in short, I’ve been so busy with my life, I terribly neglected my site and lost all my content! I was super sad for like two weeks because I am unable to get anything back. But It decided it was ok, because this is an opportunity to start fresh! I promise not to neglect this site, because…..starting over sucks! lol

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